Christian marriage is a Union of two children of God joined together in holy matrimony. The relationship started and ended into Christian marriage under divine guide of the Almighty and the Christian leaders in the church.
Fawn Reyes once said that “The difference between an ordinary marriage and an extraordinary marriage is in giving just a little extra every day, as often as possible, for as long as we both shall live”, while Ruth Bell Graham posited that “A good marriage is the union of two good forgivers”.
In our present world there have been a cosmetic and wax concept for Christian marriage or marriage in general, which has over the years gained much accolade as regards color and much spending, but does not stand the test of time.
Table Of Contents
- WHAT IS MARRIAGE
- 1. YOU MUST FIRST BE A CHILD OF GOD.
- 2. BE SURE THAT THE PERSON YOU WANT TO MARRY IS A TRUE CHILD OF GOD.
- 3. HAVE FAITH IN GOD THAT HE WILL GIVE YOU THE APPROPRIATE MARRIAGE PARTNER
- 4. INVOLVE YOUR CHRISTIAN LEADER IN YOUR MARRIAGE PLANS FOR GUIDANCE AND COUNSEL
- 5.NEVER ADOPT THE METHOD OF SINNERS IN THE WORLD
WHAT IS MARRIAGE
Marriage, also known as matrimony or wedlock, is a socially or ritually recognized union between spouses that establishes rights and obligations between a man and a woman and any resulting biological or adopted children and affinity.
In Christendom. Christian Marriage is the union between a man and a woman is believed to be instituted and ordained by God in the Garden of Eden, as the lifelong relationship between one man as husband and one woman as wife.
SUCCESSFUL CHRISTIAN MARRIAGE MUST FOLLOW THESE RULES
There are principles that you and your partner must meet for you to have a good Christian marriage and live happily with your spouse.
1. YOU MUST FIRST BE A CHILD OF GOD.
You must first be a believer to qualify to receive a good thing from the Lord. You must be a child of God before you receive another child of God for a wife or for a husband. Matthew 7: 6-11.
If you look at what this scripture says, Jesus was the One who said this, He is the One giving this counsel. Don’t give holy things to dogs. Beware of dogs.
Who are dogs?
Those who don’t know the Lord; the sinners; they are dogs; those who bark at God; those who fight the ways of God; those not interested in God. They are dogs. Don’t give a holy thing to dogs. That’s what the Lord is saying. So if you are not a Christian, you are not born again. How can the God who has spoken this be the One to take a child of God, holy thing and give you? For marriage.
2. BE SURE THAT THE PERSON YOU WANT TO MARRY IS A TRUE CHILD OF GOD.
Be sure that he or she bears clearly the fruit of righteousness and holiness. Make proper investigation and inquiry about this. Be sure.
2 Corinthians 6: 14-18.
So you can see a clear warning that the Lord has given to you that is a believer. Don’t go and marry an unbeliever, whatever is the greatness, the beauty, the renown or whatever quality that person possesses.
In fact the person possesses the type of quality you want, or others may have made recommendation of that person to you. You have even really dreamed about that person one day. Whatever all those things, as long as that person is a sinner, is an unbeliever, there is the warning….
DON’T MARRY HIM! DON’T MARRY HER! Recommended by your mother; recommended by your father; recommended by your friend; you finished from the same school; you have the same profession; you are doing the same kind of business…..That has nothing to do with marriage.
Don’t marry her. Don’t marry him. The way you look at the person he is very likely to be converted tomorrow, because he is looking very simple, she knows how to laugh, she plays gentleness, but he or she is a sinner? Don’t marry a sinner or unbeliever. You can’t have a God’s given Christian marriage, Christian home with an unbeliever. That is what the word of God says.
Deuteronomy 7: 2-4.
The danger of that unbeliever is that he is going to affect your Christian faith. He is going to affect your going to heaven. What shall it profit you, if you gain the whole world, the first lady, Miss Nigeria or Miss World, and lose your soul. What can a man give in exchange for his soul? That is why the Lord is warning you.
3. HAVE FAITH IN GOD THAT HE WILL GIVE YOU THE APPROPRIATE MARRIAGE PARTNER
Pray fervently and persistently with patience for His gift of marriage partner. Have faith. If ye who are evil know how to give good gifts to your children, how much more will your Father which is in heaven give good things to them that ask Him.
Have confidence, He will give you the marriage partner that will satisfy your heart, because the Bible says, if a son shall ask any of you that is a father, Give me bread, will he give him a stone? If he shall ask for fish, will he give him a serpent?
If ye being evil know how to give the exact thing that your children ask for, how much more will your heavenly Father give you the exact thing that you asked for? Have confidence in God, He knows even what you need more than you do. Proverbs 19: 14.
4. INVOLVE YOUR CHRISTIAN LEADER IN YOUR MARRIAGE PLANS FOR GUIDANCE AND COUNSEL
Proverbs 11: 14
Inform your Pastor before seeing the woman and negotiating with her. There is a reason for this. So that you don’t go and influence a woman who has already gotten a man to marry with your personality and property, with your riches and affluence, and now you are making her to judge between two, who is better?
Yet she has already given her answer to that other person, saying, I have prayed and the Lord says that you are my husband. But when you now came to her, she withdrew her word from the first person and said, “I am confused!” That saying means that she is ready to change her decision.
You were never confused before, it is now that somebody more educated, richer, working in a better place, one of the sons of the Generals has come and now you are announcing that God has confused you.
Then in the holiness of God, you that came and caused that confusion, you are a confusionist and you don’t belong to God because He is not the author of confusion. That’s why you need to go through your leaders, they will follow it up to know whether this person is engaged already or not.
If so, we do not want to cause confusion. It is a sensitive matter that needs application of wisdom. Otherwise, when that other brother discovers that you have come and carried the sister away from him, two of you will not be greeting each other in the Church and everyone will form his own clique.
When you have cliques, holiness will be frustrated in the house of God. So inform your leader. Your leader will carry out the action required to verify and ensure that no one has come for her.
5.NEVER ADOPT THE METHOD OF SINNERS IN THE WORLD
Never adopt the manner of sinners in the world: that date for beauty and start with boyfriend and girlfriend; propose to many at a time; disappoint and abandon a proposed one anyhow and go for another one; that demand for sex for a proof of love; or boast about a proposed person.
These are the things they do in the world. Don’t do so, it is heart breaking. This is holiness. The Bible says we should be sure. Love worketh no ill to his neighbour.